Before this 6 day trip, Junior and I had only been apart collectively for 7 days in almost 3 years of marriage. So 6 days all in one, was a big deal. I missed him terribly, but was so glad he was able to go. In fact, I hate to admit it, but prior to Junior going this trip I have had many friends and family go to Haiti without me and my feelings are always mixed. I am excited for them, but my flesh is jealous and sometimes envious that it's not me. I know it's horrible, right. The tension between my true heart and my sinful flesh is not always a pretty thing, hence my thankfulness for the Lord's grace & mercy.
However, with Junior I didn't feel any of the normal fleshy sinful stuff. I was simply honored the Lord provided him the ability to go. Plus, in a sense I felt that despite the distance I was there with him. I knew he would represent our family well and of course send lots of love from me to our loved ones there!
During his stay I was only able to chat with him on Facebook for a brief few minutes one day and then talk with him on the phone for a few minutes another. I rarely fear when I am in Haiti or when I have loved ones there, but I also know the instability and risk so for the first time it was truly painful to not just hear that my other half was okay. A new feeling when it comes to this nation I love SO much.
Then there was this brand new awareness of Military wives and what they go through. Not knowing when they will hear from their husbands and being in a totally different nation, often one they are completely unfamiliar with. Then there is this new appreciation for woman like my sister in law who move a whole country away to provide for her family....being away from her husband. I can barely make it a week and these women do it with such dignity and strength. A new understanding.
Then there was this constant appreciation for our dear friends Beaver & Kathy Brooks (check them out here). They spent several years going to Haiti separately, sometimes as much as 3 months apart before the Lord opened the door for them to be there full time together. Quite extraordinary to me, the strength in them to go to this nation that they both love so deeply and to do it separately. I knew what a big deal it was the times they were apart, how Kathy or Beaver would drop everything to answer the phone while the other was there. However, I didn't grasp how big of a deal it was until I myself had the love of my life without me on that beautiful island we wish to be permanently one day. Again, a new understanding.
More than likely this will not be the first time Junior goes without me, or visa versa, but Lord I pray that each time it will be a growing process in our Journey. It will teach me things that increase my understanding and give me a new appreciation for those I love, especially my Father God in all His grace and Mercy.
Blessings,
Natasha
Ps- So thankful for girlfriends who kept me company in Junior's Absence.